I have always loved hair. Ever since I was a little girl and began doing my own hair at the age of 12 or 14, I have loved the experience of styling, cutting, and growing it, as well as doing others' hair. I have always had the "luxury" of having lots of hair, but, from my perspective, it has never defined me. Whether it is in long layers or cut blunt and shoulder-length, I see it as an extension of my personal brand, which means it needs to be both healthy and stylish.
As I grow older, I am increasingly aware of the importance of ageing vibrantly, recognizing that health is wealth. This mindset shapes my lifestyle, diet, and beauty routines.
There are aspects of ageing that I have started to experience as natural parts of the process, and I embrace them wholeheartedly, addressing them in the best way I can. For example, hair thinning is a normal part of ageing for me, as it seems to be for the women in my family. To address this, I regularly oil and massage my scalp and seek out products that help manage these issues.
As with all things, there are seasons of change and transition with hair: improper care, a bad haircut, shedding, or even transitioning to grey. My goal is to always present my best self and utilize the tools and resources available for optimal health and hair health. Transitioning to grey was probably the longest process I experienced and the one that attracted the most commentary — people suggesting I dye it, saying it made me look old, or recommending I cut it short because it was too long. I am unsure when we fell into this cookie-cutter mindset where everyone is expected to look the same or fit a standardized concept of beauty that "others" think we should comply with.
Social media has made people comfortable voicing their opinions on others' lives, but as this is the environment I navigate, I accept it as part of the job.
As a Content Creator in the social media space, my biggest takeaway is the importance of having a strong sense of self. Comparison culture is real and the thief of joy. We are all unique individuals with our own "brands," so whether your preferred look is shaved bald, a TWA, or long flowing grey tresses, beauty is present in all of it. One aspect I love about hair is its ability to allow for unique self-expression, whether through a sew-in, lace front, or natural styling. I believe judgment should not be placed on anyone based on their hairstyle choices, including those struggling with depression or postpartum symptoms who may not have the energy or mental space to comb their hair today. Acceptance and grace are guiding principles for me.
Much like fashion, my hair serves as an accessory for self-expression. It's amazing to think that my love for products, hair knowledge, and a bit of creativity helped build a platform where I can share this passion with others. I'm both humbled and flattered by the experiences and opportunities it has brought me.
When it comes to products, I am often asked about my favourites. I always emphasise that my favourites might not align with what your hair needs. While I do enjoy certain products, they may not address your specific hair health requirements. I choose products based on what my hair needs at any given time — similar to how I eat what I crave when I'm hungry. I use products to address the specific issues or needs of my hair on that particular day.
I also use products as they are intended to be used. For instance, if it's not a leave-in conditioner, I don't leave it in my hair for three days. If the instructions say to use it for 5 to 10 minutes, I stop at 10 minutes. While I have been creative with products in the past, I'm mindful of following their intended use to ensure the best hair health.
Patti is a refined and relatable mature influencer known for her wit, wisdom, and undeniable charm. With years of experience across various industries, she brings valuable insights and honest conversations to her audience while radiating grace and sophistication.
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